Lets be PRESENT and SUPPORTIVE

Life has certainly been interesting.  Just one month ago I became a “person” again.  After giving up all of the foods I was allergic to, I developed an insane sickness that kept me in bed for almost two weeks.  On top of being bed-ridden, not being able to work or make money because of it, and still discovering how to eat allergy-free, an intense sadness fell over me.  I think that it was inevitable in that situation to completely avoid sadness, but I truly found it hard to stay positive.  All of the support of people around me made it easier, and the fact that I got to watch movies and read books for hours and hours each day made me smile.

But then there were almost 12 hours a day where my head would just race, and think of things I never think of day to day.  It is interesting: In a society that is so fast-paced, we

rarely take time to think, or to actually be present in where we are and what we are doing. One of my favorite improvisers and teachers, Dave Razowsky, often talks about [being present where you are, both in life and while you are improvising.]

So I did just that. I sat and was present in my sickness.  But in all of this “thinking time”, I allowed myself to be present in what my life is, and where I am. 

And this is where the table turned.

A huge wave of joy and positivity consumed me; I am in such an awesome place in my life right now, with such amazing people around me.  There are two particular places that really exemplify this: Second City and The Groundlings, both part of the improv community, yet both very different schools.  However, what I love most about both of these places is the support and comfort of being with my fellow improvisers.  I have been at Second City for over a year now, and it has truly become my family in Los Angeles.  Every time I enter that building, I am greeted with genuine smiles, creativity and love.  There is no pressure to get anything “right”, because the process of improv is about the process of learning, not about product.

Having started to be a part of The Groundlings community in January, it is a much newer place to me.  But in my class, I am surrounded by some of the most fun and fantastic people I have ever met.  My teacher is one of the most passionate people I have ever met, and makes every single exercise we do absolutely thrilling.  My favorite part? Every single time someone is asked up on stage, and every single time someone leaves the stage after an exercise, everyone is required to applaud.  At first, this was hard to get used to, but I find it so wonderfully thrilling now.  Giving absolute support for each and every person, no matter what happens on stage.  Being there for each other no matter what happens, and applauding the act of getting on the stage and trying your best. What an amazing and positive action!

I began thinking about this, and why in Los Angeles this does not tend to happen with each other in every day life.  Perhaps in a city full of self-conscious actors, we find it vulnerable to go out of our way to applaud someone else, seeing as the attention is not on us.   But I think we should do the opposite.  Yes, we will always have competition between one another.  Yes, we will always be trying to get to the “top” (whatever the “top” means to you).  Yet, I think we need to be each other’s support systems, and applaud each other for being in this city, being in this business, and for working hard at our dreams every single day.

So I pledge to support my creative friends, by going to their shows, asking about their accomplishments, and sending positive energy their way for auditions and other steps in their careers. Think how much stronger we can be as a supportive group of artists!

New Years “Resolutions”

2013 certainly arrived quickly, and with quite a big discovery for me.  As everyone was exclaiming their New Year resolutions, I, too, was wanting to execute the most popular resolutions: eat healthier, cook more, and save money.  However, Life had a big surprise for me that was going to make all of these “resolutions” mandatory.  For most of my life I have had health issues; not drastic, but I have had a weak immune system and digestion issues. For anyone who knows me well, hearing that I am sick or seeking medical attention is never really a surprise.  A few years ago I underwent several tests to find out if I had Celiac’s disease, but I never got clear answers.  Doctors thought I “probably did not have Celiac’s” , but if I wanted to cut gluten out it may be a good idea.  Now, Celiac’s runs in my family, so I have always taken digestive health seriously, especially after losing my Grandfather (who had Celiac’s) to colon cancer.  After all of my testing, I cut out gluten for a while, but did not continue this for more than a few months.  I did feel better, but alas, my stubborn brain reminded me that I “probably did not have Celiac’s” (according to that particular doctor), and I reverted back to my gluten-filled ways. 

 Since moving to Los Angeles a year ago, my allergies have gotten progressively worse. This past December, I had to leave work at least four times because they were so bad; my eyes get very watery, sinuses go into “full-flood” mode, and my skin becomes tight and itches (all of this is gross, I am aware.)  I also broke out in hives approximately five times in December.  After I realized my prescription allergy medication was not working anymore, I scheduled an appointment with an allergist.  We agreed to test me for environmental allergies, as well as food allergies.  We then created a list of foods that are regularly in my diet, and would be testing for those. 

Brace yourself, everyone.  The results are as follows:

Environmentally I am allergic to everything. EVERYTHING. Cool.

Food Allergies:

Gluten      Bananas           Broccoli

Dairy        All tree nuts     Carrots

Soy           Spinach           Celery

Eggs

ALL Citrus Fruit (this includes Citric Acid, which is in everything)

Grapes

All berries (except blueberries)

Apples

My immediate reaction was to cry my eyes out.  The doctor assured me that I would be fine, but would need to immediately cut all of these foods out of my diet. (Side Note: I went grocery shopping the day before to fill my pantry and fridge after having been home for Christmas. Cool.).  I called my best friend and I called my Mom.  I cried to both of them.But I knew this was not how I should be reacting! After years of fighting horrible allergies and stomach problems, all of the answers were finally revealed!

 So, my POSITIVE mind-set kicked in, and I started counting my blessings and getting proactive.

 Perhaps one of the biggest blessings out of all of this is that my best friend has the exact same allergies. (Not that I feel this is a blessing for either of us. I mean the mere fact that it is insane that two people so close could have the same allergies.) But seriously.  Other than some of my unusual vegetable and fruit allergies, she has the SAME allergies!  The second I called her, she embraced me with her support and absolute positivity, knowing that I COULD do this if I kept to my positive mind-set!  She immediately sent me several blogs and websites that offer support for these allergies as well.  And her mother (who has the same allergies as us!) has done the same in helping me find allergy-free recipe books and support systems.  Honestly, if I did not have them, this would have been so much more of a challenge; but I see how healthy they are, how good they feel being allergy-free, and I cannot help but be inspired to do the same.

 

This week, I gave away about $500 dollars worth of a stocked pantry full of my allergies, and I am never looking back!  I have started cooking every day, and am researching daily about allergy-free lifestyles.

 I feel empowered and have never been more excited about making such drastic changes in my life.  I know I will feel better, and I know I have an amazing family and support system around me who will continue to lift me up.

 So, next time I am determined to follow through with New Year “resolutions”, I guess I should be careful what I wish for; life just may force me to do them!

 Here is to LIFE changes for 2013.  I wish you all the best this year, and encourage you to see the positive in all that life brings…

Choose your Happiness

It is easy to focus on negative energy around us; it is ALL around us. Working in the service industry, this seems especially easy to come by; People not wanting to work in a restaurant, people who are jaded after having worked in a restaurant for years, customers who have had a bad day and wish to blame it on you.  Like I said, it can be easy to turn into “Negative Nancy”.   And lets face it: we are all human, and we all have bad days!  Positivity cannot change that, but I am constantly trying to fight the battle of negative thoughts.  Since moving to Los Angeles, I have met so many actors who let the fact that they have to have a “day job” hinder their happiness.  “I will only be happy once I am paid to do what I love.” I get it…that would make me extremely happy as well.  But here is the thing, what amount of money from acting will make you happy?  Or what project will make you the happiest?  Even the most highly paid actors in the industry talk about the uncertainty of where their next project will come from.  Heck, Adele kept her job at a record store after her album 19 was released, because she just was not sure if people would like it, and she did not want to lose her day job.  Here is what I say: I am an ACTOR who has to wait tables to pay my bills.  First and foremost, I am an actress.  In order to live this lifestyle, I have had to make sacrifices to get what I want, and to get to where I am today.  I choose to make the best of every situation, and waiting tables teaches me a lot.  It helps me learn how to deal with people, and how to build relationships (nothing is more heart-warming than having regulars come in to ask to sit in your section because they like you, or find you insanely hilarious J) It has helped me learn to not be frivolous with my money, and learn how to save for important things such as headshots, acting classes, workshops, and very important things like my future!  I have also met awesome people at my job, both fellow employees and customers; they constantly support me and encourage me, which is something we all need to keep pushing us!  Like I said, I have rough days too, but if we can really focus on choosing to be happy, happiness will surround us.  And yes, this is easier said than done, but practice and it does get so much easier! Do not let life determine your happiness. Be happy, and live your life!

What Life Is All About

The past couple of weeks have been very eye opening.  I find that I can really get myself in to a frustrated state if I feel I am not in control of everything in my life.  It seems the more I yearn for that absolute control, the more chaotic my life seems to be.  I stress over relationships, money, and my career. I have envisioned for years the perfect life I drove out here to have; Life is not perfect, nor can we plan it out step by step.  A short example of how I was shown this…

Last week I had the opportunity to be on set for a new campaign for empowering young girls; of course I said yes immediately!  I was to play younger high school girl, ( I have been getting called in for lots of younger 16-18 year old parts.  Seems weird to me, but I am sure I will look back one day and yearn to be thought of as younger!), so I put my hair up in a pony tail, and wore my cutest bright-colored shirt and jeans.  

I am very strict with myself about being places early. (Growing up, my mother insisted on setting our clocks ahead 20 to 30 minutes to ensure we were early and punctual to everything.  It really embarrassed at the time, but now I am probably the most punctual person I know.  Constantly sitting in my car reading books and sipping my coffee, because I have arrived way too early to work, etc.)

I left for the shoot two hours early because I was extremely unfamiliar with the area I would be driving to, and Los Angeles traffic in the morning is horrendous.  Sure enough, after being in my car for 90 minutes on the 10, and only having moved a few miles, I had to call the producer to tell him I would be late and ask him for an alternate route.  What was awesome happened next…

A fellow actor who would be on set with me did not have a car.  The producer was worried she would also be late.  I asked him where she was, and sure enough, she was 2 blocks away from where I was.  She would be getting off the Metro in approximately 2 minutes, to then transfer onto a bus for what would be probably another hour of transportation for her to get on set.  I told the producer to call her and tell her I would be outside the station to pick her up, and I did.

Now I understand for most people this seems like a coincidence.  Most people would not think twice about being late, and would just apologize.  Maybe it is from having a strict upbringing about being on time for everything, but before I called the producer I had worried myself into a panic.  Tears started welling up in my eyes, and my stomach started to feel very upset.  Most days I put myself through so much stress to be on time to my destination, to have the perfect outfit, to have my day planned so perfectly down to the minute that if it does not go the way I planned, I make myself physically sick.  Embarrassing and totally unnecessary, I know.

Instead of letting myself continue to be so upset, I took a deep breath (always the most important first step),   and I thought, “Wow, everything really does happen for a reason!”.  There was a reason I was late; to pick up my fellow actor and drive her to set.  We had a blast on set,  and she was so thankful she did not have to ride the bus!  And after the shoot, I ended up having two auditions!

I really believe that if you take somewhat “negative” situations, and find a positive way to think about it, you will avoid stress and end your day with a smile.  Positive energy is a strong force, let’s spread it!  Finding the positive in all that life brings :)